And when 80% of the messages are either, you can’t really blame them for not responding to most messages—even if you personalize your mails.

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During my early days into the world of online dating, I did an experiment. That’s like having a hole in your pocket which continues to leak money right to your door step.

Keeping everything else equal, I wanted to confirm whether there was a correlation with income and the number of responses I received. Just digging deep into some code, whilst watching the latest episode of ‘Suits’. You shouldn’t be surprised if an unwanted visitor knocks on your door, or commits an act of theft in the night.

What is the point crafting a well-thought out message if it doesn’t get opened, or worse, seen?

How to fix this: Spin it on its head and give the headline more importance.

The moment I turned the dial to $100k (I don’t earn this much), I received a message. Ahh, no worries, the income stated on my profile is incorrect anyways. Moral of this story: If you earn a lot of money, but you want to find someone who will love you for the qualities you bring to the table first, don’t boast about your income, as you will only attract a leech who isn’t even faintly interested in your character.

Especially when you get rejected countless times, with or without reason.

We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case.

While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.

Rather than saying Long story short, she was receiving a lot of messages from men who expressed their disdain at her choice for wanting to identify as a feminist.

It got to the point that she had to state explicitly on her profile: The messages never stopped. She seemed compelled to find out what vitriol I had spouted.

I’m always at my most happiest when I’m spending my time and energy focusing on the aspects of my life within my control.