How long should you "Most people need a month or two to process the breakup, to mourn, and to integrate lessons before jumping back in if they were in a fairly serious relationship," she says.

If you dated someone for a year or more, you may need three to four months.

Instead, you’ll be OK taking your time to meet new people without the expectation of immediately getting into another relationship. Your heart was broken, you deserve some self-love and to indulge a little.

Part of moving on is being able to own up to your own personal bullshit and mistakes – even if that mistake was dating your ex in the first place. The healing process after a breakup isn’t complete until you’ve had a chance to air all of your grievances and vent until you’re blue in the face.

You’ve got your stuff back (or decided to let it go). No one wants to date the person who is still obsessed with their ex. When you’re ready to date again you’ll be able to leave your past relationship where it belongs: in the past. When you’ve been hurt, often there’s the impulse to try and fill that void left by your ex with someone else.

Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall.

You need to process all the shitty emotional stuff or you’re going to carry all these negative feelings into your next relationship.

You want to make sure you're not still in post-breakup mode.

You have to get past the (valid and often necessary) stage of curling up on your couch and really mourning the loss of your relationship and to the point where you're back in the swing of work, hobbies, friends, and everything else your life normally includes.

Think about what your relationship and breakup taught you about what you want—and don't want.

Hafeez also advises making sure you're not interested in dating just to distract yourself from your breakup.

When it comes to post-breakup dating, there are two main philosophies: One is that, if you date right after a breakup, you're rebounding, which is unhealthy.

Then there's the whole idea that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." Which is right?

"This way, you will feel whole and in high self-esteem before you go back into the next relationship and won't just be trying to fill that hole," says Sherman.