I've always been one to seek out men for relationships who have been on earth about as long as I have, because that's where the most comfort and commonality can occur with a stranger. I don't know if it's because I didn't have a relationship in my 20s or because the younger guys have the look that attracts me -- not many guys in their 40s can pull off the hipster look and not appear ridiculous. I then realized that dating as a 50-year-old was going to be a lot more difficult than when I was 30 for a variety of reasons, including (a) there just aren’t as many guys in my age group; and (b) a lot of them are already partnered. OP, I'm 49, I have no particular interest in guys in their 20s or even their 30s for the most part, but I'm on Scruff and I'm constantly getting messages, woofs, etc., from guys in their 20s - much more than any other age bracket. If you plan to visit the daddy sites that are recommended here, you'd better beef up your bank account.

I also noticed that many – [bold]not all,[/bold] but many – of the ones who are available:(1) only want to date guys who are in their 20s and early 30s;(2) have never been in a long-term relationship; if you are in your 50s, and you have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few dates or a few months, that could be a real problem;(3) just gave up on themselves, i.e., decided that they no longer had to take care of how they look (as in they don’t go near a gym and make exceptionally poor eating choices), and complain about their “ailments” as if they are 85 and in a nursing home;(4) are either just plain weird or have a harsh, bitter, jaded edge that is really unpleasant to be around. As I said, slim, but not nonexistent, so, hope springs eternal. It's a little annoying to me, but anyway it happens so you might as well try. Because younger guys looking for older men are looking for someone to take care of them. It's so boring when people generalise about everyone else.

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What exactly is it then, OP, that would interest any of us in one of you?

I can't imagine how a site geared toward the old/young combo would attract anyone other than pervs and golddiggers.

The guy I've been seeing is financially secure (relatively well-off, but certainly not rich).

He's led a pretty full life and has experienced a lot, which means he has good stories to tell and helpful advice to give. The fact that he's been to just about every bar and restaurant in the city means he is now perfectly content spending a quiet evening at home, which suits me just fine.

OP, why not try your luck on a "normal" dating site and include your preference in your profile? I meant to add that hooking up with younger guys is a whole 'nother story.

Lots of young guys like older guys with big dicks, and good conversation/maturity. But it's unreasonable to believe we, at 40 something, can get ourselves a very young RELIABLE boyfriend. It does happen occasionally, and it isn't always due to money..it's RARE.Maybe because he was sort of immature which made me feel even older.We talked about the age difference once and he said he thought it was hot.I feel very fortunate because I've found someone who's mature, responsible, dependable, and considerate.I, and others my age who are like me, find those qualities very attractive, and an older man is likelier to possess them.I’m very involved in the community, have a lot of friends and a fantastic dog, and never lack for things to do or people to do them with. Or, in the short term, buy them things and take them on trips. The flip side of your story is that nobody wants you.