You are starting to date a new person and treat it that way.

You can still have love, but your relationship might move. When you transition and when you start “passing,” it’s like you’re between two worlds.

You can’t really avoid having to tell people, especially if you change your name, pronouns, etc.

So, being aware of that, I really tried not to put myself into a trans bubble where talking about being trans and my transition became all we ever discussed.

We saw each other only one other time in person before we split, and it was about four and a half months after I started my transition.

I hadn’t changed drastically in terms of appearance (no beard yet, more muscle but not a ton, voice had changed only slightly), but I don’t remember her expressing much interest in knowing how I was feeling, whether I was happy with it, etc.

Despite all the changes I was going through, I think transitioning actually made me happier and more stable, and I would have been able to understand and address her feelings.

I also wish that she had asked me more questions and had taken a more active role in my transition.Coming out as trans is a strange thing, more so than coming out as LGBQ, in my opinion.When you come out as queer (I’ll use that as a shorthand for any LGBQ sexual orientation), you’re announcing some kind of a personal trait, a preference.I would tell these people that they are more than welcome to identify however they wanted.However identifying as lesbian can be a little unsupportive to their transmale partner as they now identify as male.When we broke up five months later, lots came out during that time that she held back from me.