Dating marriage online ruining
Pardon me while I step on my soap box for a moment: A psychologist named Emma Kenny is claiming that online dating has given rise to something called “Tinderella Syndrome," which makes otherwise normally-functioning adults incapable of dating anywhere but the Internet. But online dating was designed to enhance your love life — not replace it altogether.” A few disclaimers: I couldn’t find the Look Magazine article in which this sound byte occurs, so I don’t have any context other than what the Daily Mail has given.According to Emma Kenny speaking to Look Magazine, we’re no longer able to start conversations with people we don’t know in the real world because of online dating. Also, it’s the Daily Mail, which isn’t always reliable, so do with that what you will.Online dating, however, can open up a whole world of folks you might not otherwise come into contact with when you reach that tricky point in your life where making new friends, let alone potential partners, is hard enough.
The good news is that the stigma seems to be vanishing on its own, in spite of assumptions like this one; a survey conducted by the Pew Research Center earlier in 2014 revealed that 59 percent of adults today believe that online dating is a good way to meet people, up from 44 percent in 2005.
Fewer people, too, think that “people who use online dating are desperate”; that figure is only at 21 percent, down from 29 percent in 2005.
Of course, it’s going to be harder to take the plunge to start up a conversation with a stranger in a bar than sending an anonymous message to a man with a witty dating profile — especially because you can just log off if it gets uncomfortable, rather than finding yourself trapped in an awkward conversation.
You’re suddenly inundated with so many potential love interests that you stop investing the same amount of effort into meeting actual people offline.
All of the IRL things that go on when you’re actively dating don’t just vanish when you use the Internet as your initial stomping grounds.
It’s incredibly difficult to meet people outside of your friend circle or your work environment or industry as an adult.Don’t get me wrong, I love theatre people — but your world gets a little small when the only folks you see day in and day out are the ones you work with. Neither of us ran in the same circles, either socially or professionally; but we found each other on the Internet, making it a perfect example of online dating “enhancing” our love life.Consider, too, the opportunities online dating affords people who aren’t naturally gregarious.When we first started dating, I was both in graduate school and working in the theatre.This meant that I spent on average 12 to 14 hours a day — essentially all my waking hours — with theatre people.Sure, online dating may not be for you — but why would you belittle something that works for someone else, especially when it ultimately has no bearing on you yourself?