Older children, including teens, will prefer interacting with you on a more adult level, such as at a coffee shop, cafe or other social gathering. These are all questions that you need to discuss with your girlfriend as your relationship progresses.

You might have some really great ideas about how you think she could do things, and you might have some strong ideas about how children should behave. Until the mini people are old enough to get their own cereal and turn on the cartoons, there's no such thing as sleeping in. She probably doesn't need saving, but she definitely needs a massage.

If you really want to impress everyone, let her sleep while you get the pancakes going and put the coffee on, or take everyone on a doughnut run. Be supportive if she complains about him, but whatever you do, don't talk badly about him in front of the kids (it's actually included in many custody agreements; don't make a sticky situation stickier). She can't just see how the night goes and stay out as long as she might want. Handling what life serves is her modus operandi — she's been handling it since before you came along, and she's prepared to handle it if you leave. Pamper her because you admire her Terminator strength to always keep going.13. If you want to whisk her away for a romantic weekend, offer to help with the parental logistics so she's relaxed on her trip, not distracted with worry.

Glazed old-fashioned might be the closest thing to a Bloody Mary you both can get. Speaking of Bloody Marys, hangovers aren't an option anymore. It's very likely he will be a large part of her life for at least the next 18 years, so get used to it. Babysitters are people too, and good ones are a hot commodity. If she told the babysitter she'd be home by 11, make sure she's home by 11! Goldfish crackers and Band-aids are never far away. Hand sanitizer, Chapstick, a small dinosaur, some crayons, or a flashlight?

It's not about being in your 20s or your 30s or your 40s; it's about keeping it together during a living room performance of and wiping butts and doing laundry. Say good-bye to after-parties, say hello to more-time-for sex (Lock the door!

Anthony Oster is a licensed professional counselor who earned his Master of Science in counseling psychology at the University of Southern Mississippi.

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