I’m going to tell you something that you already know: dating is a frustrating process of trial and error.

For a lot of people, it’s a seemingly never-ending dance of missed connections, nights you’ll never get back again and wondering just what’s wrong with you and why everybody else seems to have it so much easier. In fact, for many people, online dating is such a trial that they give up early on.

The first step to overcoming your frustration with online dating is to adjust your mindset and expectations accordingly.

Online dating takes a different attitude and skill-set than, say, making cold approaches at a bar or flirting with someone you met at a house party.

In online forums and gaming – where many people meet their partners – how we express ourselves and our personality acts as the initial attractors.

Similarly, we try to divine as much of that information as possible from the dating profile photo and username even before we start in on the dating profile.

Many people treat online dating as though they were talking to somebody in a bar.

In the physical world, unless you’re Jack Harkness, flirting with several different people simultaneously is a major faux-pas and likely to leave you going home alone – possibly wearing several drinks.Even for people like me who the whole dance and the chase and the thrill of the new, there will be points when you really just want to take a step back from it for a while and catch your breath and let your ego recover from the beatings that tend to come with it. But just as when you’re trying to meet your future snugglebunny the old-fashioned way, it’s important to understand the potential headaches that come with those marathon OKCupid sessions.Many of the things that drive people away from online dating can be headed off at the pass with some preparation.You have to treat your dating profile as an advertisement; you are, after all, selling yourself to others.This means that you have to consider your market, what you’re looking for and what makes you, specifically, attractive to others.When we meet somebody in person, we have hundreds of thousands of verbal and non-verbal clues to give us an intuitive grasp of who we’re talking to and whether or not we’re into them long before we go up and introduce ourselves.